Hey Girls, just to let you know what it’s like going out in the daylight in Amarillo. I know on other post, blogs and forums everybody is always talking about going out at night. They talk about some of their “close calls”. Yes, when you first step out of your front door and into the great outside it gets very nerve wrecking. You’ve heard all the other stories and then someone sees you and it all comes crashing down because of fear. The person that just drove by or walked by you doesn’t really see you as you.
Once you get by these initial frights the world begins to open up to you as in the rising sun opens the world. I did, many years ago, go out at night. Then I thought about the stories from the other sites and realized that it wasn’t the fact they went out as much as where they went. I would not go to a redneck bar full of homophobics to begin with so why would I go there as me?
Yes it does help to have some idea of how you should behave in public, dress, walk, body language, what to do if? and basically be a woman. That’s one of the reasons for a support group ladies. This gives you the chance and opportunity to learn about yourself and how to be yourself.
Okay, I know out in Amarillo. Yes I go shopping at the mall, girl has to have clothes. I have found many stores accepting of my money. When the sales clerk realizes this is a purchase and in the dollar amounts that help their commission, they are extremely friendly. These businesses are in business to make money and those who have some kind of high moral, which is mislead, usually do not last very long when they discriminate against anyone.
Because of my, and our, odd sizing plus the style I wish to project I usually shop in the upper end stores. These clothes are of better quality and when I shop the sales racks and the clearance racks I end up paying about the same as you would in discount place. The dressing rooms at the upper end stores are cleaner, nicer and they have more of them. I get person attention from the staff. My favorite place is Dillard’s and there are a couple of ladies that I like to deal with and we have developed a very cordial customer to sales clerk relationship. they know I am there to shop the sales, see the new styles coming out and that if I don’t buy it that day that I’ll be back to get later.
Now I don’t just go shopping, I go out to eat. I go where I want to go. I did go with some friends to one place that I was a little concerned about. I went and I went with the attitude that I am who I am and I am a woman. We had a good visit with the owner before we left and I did not experience any negativity.
Speaking of attitude, this is the most important thing of all. This is the thing you should put on first before you caress. When you do go out, go out with the attitude that you are in the right place, you are there for a reason (even if it is shopping) and if those persons have a problem with you it’s their problem not yours. Just remember Flip Wilson as Geraldine and all the attitude she had.
I’ll be back later, hopefully not as late as my last visit, and I’ll visit with you ladies more about being out and about.
HUGS Sandra
